Earlier, I mentioned how true love is a gift from God. It’s not something everyone has the privilege of experiencing, and sometimes, that’s on us. We don’t seize opportunities when we should.
We know this woman loves this man, but we find a strange, yet relatable moment between them:
“I have taken off my dress, How can I put it on again? I have washed my feet, How can I dirty them again? My beloved extended his hand through the opening, And my feelings were aroused for him… I opened to my beloved, But my beloved had turned away and had gone! My heart went out to him as he spoke. I searched for him but I did not find him; I called him but he did not answer me.” (5:3-4, 6)
She takes him for granted and has a moment of laziness. Now you come? She wonders, now that I’m tucked into bed? But then at the sight of him, she realizes how ridiculous this is and jumps up to invite him in. It’s too late, and now she’s a little beat up about it.
I think at some point in each of our lives we let love slip away, because we’re tired and don’t want to make the effort. It’s too easy to stay in bed all cozied up. Introverts are lousy with memes about how much they adore a night in.
Relationships must be cultivated and it takes work. Sometimes we don’t have the great love we desire, because we don’t work for it. We want the other person to work, to arrive at a convenient time, to fulfill all our needs.
I’m reminded of the dream sequence in The Princess Bride when Buttercup gets booed by the old hag. “Because you had love in your hands and you gave it up!” Thankfully the story doesn’t end there, and true love has a chance, but not without effort!
Can you think of a relationship in your life that could use some extra effort? Think of a way that you can inconvenience yourself today to love another. There are a lot of gardening analogies in this book. What, in your relationships, needs tending, pruning, watering, etc.?