Paul leaves out a lot about the sanctification of marriage, but he’s not wrong about what a distraction it is. It claims a lot of your time and energy, and can easily detract from focusing on your identity in Christ. There have been a few wedding announcements I’ve winced at, worried about my gospel-fueled friend whose attention would now be turned towards a needy spouse.

I also know a decent amount of single people who fixate their prayer life, energy and time on trying to find someone to marry. Waiting for their life to begin once they finally tie the knot.

I think Paul’s point is this: sexual and relational intimacy should enhance our life, not rule it. 

Marriage was never it for me, and I thought it sounded rather boring to be tethered to the same person my entire life. Until I met Matt. I couldn’t get down the aisle fast enough!

Ideally, on a good day, being married to him brings me closer to knowing and behaving like Christ. Our gifts complement each other and we work together as a perfect, unified team that seamlessly exemplifies the image of Christ and the church. Most days, though, I’m too wrapped up in my identity as his wife or annoyed he’s not meeting my every need.

“Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you.” 7:17

I like this verse, and I want to be better at coming back to it.

Be present where he has you, but don’t forget what he has called you to.

-Carly